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Being positive is a choice (most of the time)

Being positive is a choice
Mindset is really important.

It was great to have some time away last week, and we loved our holiday (despite the dodgy weather). It really helped to refresh the spirit, but it's time to get back to work.

When you have had the relaxation and reset from a holiday, you can take that energy and apply it to your return. Fresh energy, different options, and new ideas can be borne from this. But the choice is yours.

Getting back to work after a break presents some unique challenges. You can choose whether to see them as challenges or obstacles, positive or negative. Mindfulness can help you decide to take the benefits of your time off and apply them to your time on.

So this week, I would like to remind you of something you already know (but sometimes forget) … and that's that being positive is a choice (most of the time). When life challenges you and you are confronted with what feels like roadblocks on the journey that is your very existence, it's easy to walk around with a dark cloud over your head. It's easy to lose hope, give in to, or spiral into negativity.

We all have moments and people who test us, and how you react to them can make all the difference between a bad moment, a bad week, a bad month or even a bad year. Here are three top pointers from Holistic Health Coach, Sarah Highfield, on how to turn that around …

#1. Instead of asking "why me?" ask "what now?"

Knowing your mindset, thoughts and beliefs and learning how to steer them is key to shaping your habits and perception of the world. You can feel like a perpetual victim when confronted by circumstances or people that hinder you. But, if you can manage not to dwell on the negativity of the situation and instead look for solutions and resolutions, then you have already won half the battle.

#2. Remember a negative mind will never give you a positive life.

We often only see what we are looking for; a negative mindset will look for faults in everything, while a positive one will find opportunities.

Many people can relate to dealing with someone you don't like or who annoys you. Chances are, when interacting with them, you primarily focus on their irritating traits, which only leaves you overthinking and feeling increasingly tense. Instead, next time you interact with them, try to focus on the parts of them that are sincere and well-meaning and recognise that their behaviours also come from somewhere (just as yours do). Maybe there are areas in their lives that are not going their way.

And, if you can't do that, why not simply just let them be and not allow their actions or negative energy to run your positive energy. Take a moment to decide if they are worth you stressing out over and whether they are more important than your peace of mind.

#3. Try practical positivity

While I don't advocate toxic positivity, I am encouraging you to understand that, with exceptions, being positive is a choice you have. The world is brighter when you focus on the good times, occasions, news, achievements and people in your life. If you need a helping hand, well-known strategies for keeping positive include:

  • Keeping a gratitude journal

  • Daily meditation (even a few minutes a day will make a difference)

  • Walks in nature

  • Being present in the moment

  • Embracing humour

  • Prioritising self-care

  • Spending time with positive people

  • Maintaining good relationships with people you care about

Every experience you have is an opportunity for you to evolve for the better. If you can keep this in mind when things don't go your way, you will feel more positive and motivated in those challenging moments.

To celebrate World Reflexology Week and help you prioritise your self-care, I'm opening up the Self-Care Community to try for FREE for 1 week. And then a flash sale of 20% off if you choose to join us.

"Choose to be optimistic, it feels better.” - Dalai Lama

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